Get out quickly and save your time !!

October 09, 2022

As the title refers, you are basically wondering why you are getting out quickly and saving your time from who and for what? . Its all about toxicity as a language of love .

This is mostly experienced among campus students. A toxic relationship is one that makes one feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned or attacked. Relationships that makes one feel worse rather than better can become toxic overtime.

However, don't get the information wrong service and sacrifice are part of a good relationship and they do experience challenges, disagreement, forgiveness and discomfort. A healthy relationship is mutually life giving .

For the relationship to be toxic it basically starts with very minor issues then it starts showing over time .You can't tell that your partner is toxic until they are angry to their breaking point.

In our daily life, the reason as to why majorly campus youth are the one affected is due to the peer pressure .Everyone around you seems to be having a partner and you feel like why not you.At the same time you have friends that you never get to see their boyfriends and girlfriend but they are always looking good with money in their pockets .

This is where the devil whispers you start feeling you truly want the same reciprocated to you and you find yourself a partner. With time you might have introduced your partner to some of your friends thus breaking up with them becomes a problem or the kind of lifestyle you have been introduced to you find it difficult to say ' No ' to toxic parts in the relationship,especially when ladies find sponsors to fund their lives and gents find themselves "auntie Wa harrier" They adapt a certain lifestyle that is difficult to change and requires time to do so. Having that mentality of what will my friends say and so on .

Don't be defined by the relationship you can always say no .Be aware that rejection is part of life. The best way is to avoid over investment in your partner that is yet to be your wife or husband .That person can see someone else and that can drain you .

How to know your partner is toxic

1) If you are controlled what you do

This goes around chats/calls ,you tend to answer questions of the person you are talking to especially if they are your opposite gender.Even controlled in what to wear .

Hard to notice cause they phrase it in a way you think they are caring.

2) If an issue arises you are always the one to be blamed.They even put it direct "It is your fault " .

3) Make you feel less about yourself . They even go to an extent of calling you childish ,low thinker

4) Word have no meaning

In everything you are doing if for example you tell the person you are in the market ,they tell you to take a picture .

5) Failure to pick one phone call can lead to them calling more times to an extent of 26 missed calls

That way your case is well cooked you will have to be answerable .Its very funny how one tends to connect their phone to Bluetooth speaker so as when they call that way you will hear and escape the cases.

6) There is no empathy

When you open up you met with apathy instead of empathy .

Love is never enough .People are killing each other most cases being campus youth due to failure to knowledge .They love each other so hard to let go .

Never lower your standards to accommodate another person.You are not the general manager of the universe,your health comes first. Be it emotionally, physically, mentally and even psychologically .

Always paint a picture for the kind of relationship you want.

Give yourself permission to dream about how you actually want to be treated .

With time you will be so happy that you did let go.

Being happy will become part of you.

Get to know you are dating a toxic partner at ;

https://youtu.be/PcOXS7KdTb4

How to end toxic relationship and start a fresh at;

Toxic relationship can lead to a serious depression if safety measures will not be taken . Read the previous article on how depression strikes causing tragedy.